
Although I do enjoy many aspects of my life, and a lot of things are falling into place for me, one of my fatal flaws is that I'm always looking back on things that didn't work out, wondering why they fell apart, and what I could have done differently.
Situations play back in my head, where each time I alter my responses and reactions slightly, analyzing and overanalyzing what I did wrong, why things didn't work. It's sickening, because no matter how much I change the memory or manipulate what already happened, nothing changes. Looking back into the past only detaches me from the present.
One major goal I have is to just keep moving forward. Dwelling on things I have no control over won't help, so why bother? Maybe it wasn't even my fault things didn't work out. Perhaps nothing I did could have changed what happened.
Letting go of the feeling of responsibility is liberating. Of course, it is important to take some responsibility for my actions, but when I do everything I can and something goes wrong, letting go of it is a major weight off my shoulders.
And it turns out, when I stop thinking about the past and start doing everything I can in the present, I end up so much happier.
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