Full disclosure: I am a worrier. I worry about big things, little things, necessary things and unnecessary things. I lose sleep. I constantly google things and check out all different possibilities for every situation that could occur.
But here's the thing: All of the worrying and stress doesn't really get me anything. It won't make my problem go away, it won't resolve any conflicts or change anyone's mind. It won't propose any new solutions. It just makes me upset, and I make others upset and then the mess is bigger.
Lately, my mantra has been "worrying won't change the outcome," because its true. I can worry for years on end about if/where I will get a job after graduation, but it really doesn't matter. Worrying won't help me figure out what I want to do, and it certainly won't employ me. So I might as well be happy while I can and do whatever is in my power to help myself. But worrying isn't part of the solution.
I am a firm believer in things working out and falling into place in the end. And they typically do. I might have to go through a rough patch or two or three or ten before I can see the solution, but it always presents itself.
I completely agree. It's one of the hardest things to try and learn, but its possible.
ReplyDeleteWow! When I was reading this post, I felt as if you were reading my mind for the past few weeks. I too worry about EVERYTHING (big, small, and in between). And what you said is right, worrying about everything solves nothing - it just makes things worse.
ReplyDeleteThis semester I got an internship with a company that I LOVE. I was thrilled for an hour until I started thinking: what if things go wrong? What if they find someone better? Yadda Yadda. Like, why was I thinking about the bad when everything was falling into place?? Everyone thought I was crazy for being so stressed over this...and you know what, they were right.
I found that the best thing to deal with stress is to take up a hobby...something that you absolutely love. For me, I have found that working out is a great stress reliever. Also, when I find myself thinking about negative things, I think about all the positive things going on in my life. It's hard though.
I wish you the best of luck and a stress-free semester :)
I completely agree as well! the more I tell my self that, the more I start to truly believe it!
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard but it's definitely something I need to work on reminding myself
ReplyDeleteSo good to know I'm not the only one who stresses like this!
ReplyDeleteDefinitely, it's encouraging to know its possible!
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